Finding Yourself: 5 Things To Remember

1. Be Selfish
It is IMPOSSIBLE to live in a world where you constantly seek to please others. The world is cruel. You will not make it if you continue to act like you don't deserve the best there is. You do deserve it, you deserve everything good that can happen in ones life.
Whether you believe it or not.
2. Be Your Own Advocate
No one will defend you. Absolutely no one is going to put themselves down for your benefit. You need to fight for what you want, it'll be the only way you get things. No one is coming on a white horse to save you. You need to be able to fight your own daily battles.
3. Be Your Own Hero
You do to need saving. I repeat you do not need saving. You are complete. You are perfect as yourself. You can do it. Do not rely on others for your happiness. Ever.
4. Speak Up
You matter. What you have to stay matters. Your thoughts matter, your feelings matter. Preach your beliefs. Let everyone hear what you have to say. If they don't like it or agree, fuck them. Be free with your thoughts. Bottling things up is deadly.
5. Be Confident
Be confident. Take pride in yourself. You're a piece of art. Know your self worth, be poised, be graceful. Know that you are perfect the way you are.
Finding yourself isn't an easy task. We change and evolve everyday but somethings are important to remember. Sometimes we  all struggle and need a little friendly reminder and a lil push.
All my love x

You're Not In My Life

Theres a reason you're always on my mind but you're not in my life,
We all have at least one person in our lives that isn't really involved or technically in our lives anymore however they still somehow manage to be a looming presence, hanging over us like an invisible storm cloud. *Que thunder bolt and storm noises.* 
This person probably makes you angry. Like I mean blood boiling, temper rising, satans crotch fire breathing angry.. Okay that might just be me, short with anger issues over here allow me. But the reason they make you angry might not always be clear to you. 
The mention of their name, a sight of their picture can bring your mood down like the value of the pound in todays economy, yikes.
You're blocked on mostly everything however you still somehow manage to see them, even if its just as your friends innocently scroll through their news feeds and it instantly makes your stomach flip! Thats literally the worst stomach related feeling ever, aside from like starvation ect, I've found so many things this way, not pretty. Anyways back to the subject. 
No matter what the reason is you get angry, whether you know or not, let it go. Just breathe and exhale it out. 
They're no longer in your life for a reason. You may of had good memories, they may have been your friend, love, family member etc, but they're gone for a reason, whether you believe it or not, God is good and he works in mysterious ways that are always beneficial. 
Things happen, people change, we grow apart. So why waste your time getting mad or trying to get even over the past? You will never be able to change it. Thats just a sad fact. 
Do not give people the time of day and space in your thoughts, as they aren't doing it for you. Why waste precious storage up there, some of you don't even have much to spare in the brain memory department, its all love, but allow it. Why harbour negativity in a limited capacity? Do you want fried brains? Nah, I didn't think so. 
Your time and presence is precious. Focus on the good energies in your life. Ask good people how they are, how their day was, YOU WILL ONLY BENEFIT FROM BEING NICE TO GOOD PEOPLE. Feeding snakes will only breed you snakes. 
Avoid thinking about people that make you feel like shit or make you think of bad times. It's the best thing to do. Letting go is hard, but its needed. Forgive, move on, never forget. Learn and mature.
Sometimes though life is unexpected. If you get thrown into a situation where you have to deal with people you would rather cheese grate your face off than talk too.. then kill them with kindness.
The good you bring into others lives will only increase their changes of karma coming round and fucking them the hell up. Show them why exactly they don't deserve you in their lives.
Old doors close so new and better ones can open. Don't be fooled, don't be bitter. 
Be forgiving, be graceful. 
All my love.

It's Okay Not To Be Okay

We all have those days where everything that could go wrong is going wrong. We look around and see  ourselves surrounded by 'normal' people getting on with their 'normal' lives and feel out of place.
It's so easy to confuse emotions. Just because you're not currently content and happy with your situation at this moment in time, doesn't mean you will never be.
Comparisons are poison. I used to be a religious comparer but all it did was make me continuously unhappy. Those normal people we see, they have their own battles  we don't know about. Sometimes what we envy is much worse than what we have.
You are your own person, you live and orchestrate your own life. It's okay not to be okay sometimes. I mean who said you have to be okay all the time? Where the fuck is that a rule? Embrace yourself, lows and highs, peaks and pits, they all make you, you.
Young adult life can be v stressful. Nothing is what we thought. Everything is continuously changing. Overwhelmed and stressy just don't seen to cover what you'll feel at times.
Change is scary, yes I'll admit that. It doesn't always sit well with people, we  want what we're used to, like a cosy blanket of normalcy. Unfortunately thought things aren't meant to stay the same forever. We grow, we change, we evolve, as our energies grow, we simply outgrow things in life. It's nature. It happens.
It's okay to from getting really good grades to the odd bad ones, people have off days, somethings we just don't get. Everyone can't understand everything, then we wouldn't have specialists in things. Get my drift? But a few bad grades don't mean you're failing at life, you're okay.
Maybe you think you're going to be with a  certain someone forever, but it doesn't go to plan. Thats okay too.
Maybe nothing at all has happened today and you just feel like crap, thats completely fine.
Its okay to feel things. Emotions are there to be felt. Its okay to be sad, its okay to not be okay every now and then.
It's not necessary to have an explanation to why you feel like how you do. You don't owe people shit to have to explain things to them.
I am more than aware I am extremely blessed in life and luckier than most with my blessings. I never want to come across as if I take it for granted but aside from all of that, I have days where I don't feel up to life, I don't wanna fight my daily battles, it can get tiring.
It's okay to feel like a mess, its okay to not have 'it all' together, whatever 'it all' is, its okay not to know what you want. You don't need an answer today or tomorrow or by the day after tomorrow. It will come in time.
I cannot stress enough that it is okay not to be okay.
Life isn't easy. It is a constant uphill battle. Life will never be perfect as a picture and nor will we as humans be.
Do not pretend you're okay to please others. Not being okay doesn't make you any less than you are.
Embrace being perfectly imperfect. Love your flaws as much as you do your good points.
Just remember, maybe not today or tomorrow but with time, patience and self love, you will be fine. You've got this. Don't be scared to feel.

All my love x